https://happyzine.co.nz Because good news makes a difference Sun, 29 Jan 2017 18:35:44 +0000 en-US hourly 1 http://wordpress.org/?v=4.3.9 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/19/nelson-workshop-core-connection-with-paxe-based-on-marshal-rosenberg%e2%80%99s-nvc/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/19/nelson-workshop-core-connection-with-paxe-based-on-marshal-rosenberg%e2%80%99s-nvc/#comments Wed, 19 Oct 2011 05:29:33 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=16001 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/19/nelson-workshop-core-connection-with-paxe-based-on-marshal-rosenberg%e2%80%99s-nvc/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/09/compassionate-communication-the-powerful-practice-of-naming-and-owning-our-reactivity/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/09/compassionate-communication-the-powerful-practice-of-naming-and-owning-our-reactivity/#comments Sun, 09 Oct 2011 04:48:28 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=15867 By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé [Note: This style of communication is also known as Non Violent Communication. Ed.] You know you are in reaction when you experience one or more of these things: -You feel your shoulders get tight (or ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/09/compassionate-communication-the-powerful-practice-of-naming-and-owning-our-reactivity/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/02/compassionate-communication-meeting-your-needs-and-staying-calm-when-your-partner-is-not/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/02/compassionate-communication-meeting-your-needs-and-staying-calm-when-your-partner-is-not/#comments Sun, 02 Oct 2011 05:32:29 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=15746 By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé [Note: This style of communication is also known as Non Violent Communication. Ed.] Your partner is feeling anxious about work and in an unconscious expression of that anxiety, she or he sends a jackal ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/10/02/compassionate-communication-meeting-your-needs-and-staying-calm-when-your-partner-is-not/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/08/23/compassionate-communication-building-trust/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/08/23/compassionate-communication-building-trust/#comments Tue, 23 Aug 2011 04:31:14 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=15196 By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Often couples talk about rebuilding trust.  The idea of rebuilding something you had before is a critical mistake in thinking. When you imagine you need to “re-build” trust, what you really ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/08/23/compassionate-communication-building-trust/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/22/compassionate-communication-curiosity-for-poor-decisions/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/22/compassionate-communication-curiosity-for-poor-decisions/#comments Fri, 22 Jul 2011 02:03:19 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=14645 By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Curiosity for Poor Decisions Your partner can’t meet you for a hike because for the fifth time this month he has gone off his diet and eaten something to which he is allergic.  He ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/22/compassionate-communication-curiosity-for-poor-decisions/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/15/compassionate-communication-managing-emotions-and-herding-cats/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/15/compassionate-communication-managing-emotions-and-herding-cats/#comments Thu, 14 Jul 2011 22:56:27 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=14595 By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Managing Emotions and Herding Cats Herding cats is difficult not because cats are stubborn or unruly, but rather because cats weren’t meant to move like a herd.  The same is true of managing your ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/15/compassionate-communication-managing-emotions-and-herding-cats/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/03/compassionate-communication-how-to-maintain-your-well-being-when-a-family-member-isnt/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/03/compassionate-communication-how-to-maintain-your-well-being-when-a-family-member-isnt/#comments Sat, 02 Jul 2011 21:05:11 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=14364 By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Seeing a family member make decisions that you know will only bring them more suffering is painful.  You love them and desperately want them to be well, and want a sense of peace ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/07/03/compassionate-communication-how-to-maintain-your-well-being-when-a-family-member-isnt/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/06/05/compassionate-communication-when-every-request-is-a-demand/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/06/05/compassionate-communication-when-every-request-is-a-demand/#comments Sat, 04 Jun 2011 21:21:25 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=13786 Connection Gem of the Week By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé When Every Request is a Demand If your partner has difficulty believing that s/he can have you and be authentic or autonomous, s/he may hear your every request as a ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/06/05/compassionate-communication-when-every-request-is-a-demand/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/29/getting-started-with-mindfulness-jackals/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/29/getting-started-with-mindfulness-jackals/#comments Sun, 29 May 2011 09:53:19 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=13628 By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Getting Started with Mindfulness & Jackals The foundation of Compassionate Communication (NVC) is mindfulness.  Awareness of what’s happening and what’s creating disconnect sets the stage for change.  Thus I continually encourage those wishing to ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/29/getting-started-with-mindfulness-jackals/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/04/compassionate-communication-foundation-workshop-in-parnell-auckland/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/04/compassionate-communication-foundation-workshop-in-parnell-auckland/#comments Tue, 03 May 2011 23:48:16 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=12966 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/04/compassionate-communication-foundation-workshop-in-parnell-auckland/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/03/course-raising-educating-our-children-without-punishment-or-rewards/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/03/course-raising-educating-our-children-without-punishment-or-rewards/#comments Tue, 03 May 2011 05:34:12 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=12944 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/05/03/course-raising-educating-our-children-without-punishment-or-rewards/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/04/24/compassionate-communication-working-hard-to-be-seen/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/04/24/compassionate-communication-working-hard-to-be-seen/#comments Sun, 24 Apr 2011 10:09:36 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=12816 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/04/24/compassionate-communication-working-hard-to-be-seen/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/04/08/compassionate-communication-nvc-in-the-workplace/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/04/08/compassionate-communication-nvc-in-the-workplace/#comments Fri, 08 Apr 2011 05:45:29 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=12372 By LaShelle Lowe-Chardé In weekend NVC retreat, a participant, let’s call her Carol, described a meeting at work in which her boss offered feedback. The words, tone, and volume of the feedback didn’t meet Carol’s needs ...]]> https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/04/08/compassionate-communication-nvc-in-the-workplace/feed/ 0 https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/03/27/improving-our-communication-pause-and-resource-by-lashelle-lowe-charde/ https://happyzine.co.nz/2011/03/27/improving-our-communication-pause-and-resource-by-lashelle-lowe-charde/#comments Sun, 27 Mar 2011 03:09:41 +0000 https://happyzine.co.nz/?p=12079 Because great communication is going to save the planet Pause and Resource by LaShelle Lowe-Chardé Resourcing, in the way I am using the term, means reconnecting to your source of grounding, nourishment, and wholeness. 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